The unexpected twists

If it seems to good to be true, sometimes it is.

At least that is how the saying goes.  Things were going so great, so ideal.  Then they do a slight deviation to what you had thought in your mind.  As we continue on this path of life, we learn many things about ourselves and those around us that are a part of our lives, let it be for 30 seconds while we pay for our lunch from a complete stranger, or for days, months and years from those people we get to know.



As a relationship evolves and you learn more about someone, two things can happen, you either become closer/fall more in love, or become distant and the relationship stops growing.  Things you may learn might seem irrelevant or non important, or so important that you don't even know where to begin with how to handle it or react to it.   One sentence is all it takes sometimes to turn your world upside down and make you realize that things aren't as they appear.

Understanding, patience, compassion, honesty.  These are pillars for a healthy relationship.  I have been put into a situation unlike one I have been before.  I know I will learn and grow from this situation, and right now I am trying to feel everything that I am feeling.  Processing my emotions and thoughts.  Reflecting and reminding myself to stay cool and collected even though I feel a bit on edge sometimes as a result.  As humans we think about everything.  The choices we make and their results.  We think about phone calls we will make and gifts we will buy.  We think about what to eat and drink.  We think about the people we want to be romantically involved with.  We think way too much.  Some situations don't require us to think, but feel.  What feels right?  We have instincts and intuition and as a society we have been trained to think and use logic to rationalize and make decisions, but that doesn't always yield the best results.

Just now I realized I need to remember to feel more and think less.   I need to act more with my heart and less with my brain.  I too forget to do this sometimes and after hanging up the phone just now with a friend she shared with me this anecdote of "feel my decisions, not think".  I'm glad she did because I was feeling a little lost in my head with all this thinking of what to do and how to handle this somewhat sensitive situation.